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Spicy Special: Redefining Manhood: A Conversation with Kristal Desantis

February 09, 2025 • Pepper Kat • Season 3 • Episode 75

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Kristal Desantis, a marriage and family therapist and author of "STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man," discusses the evolution of male roles and the challenges men face in modern society. Her approach integrates attachment-based trauma-informed therapy to help men navigate issues like loneliness, societal expectations, and the impact of the digital age on intimacy. DeSantis emphasizes the changing expectations of men, shifting from traditional roles of protector and provider to being emotionally supportive partners. She also highlights the influence of social media and dating apps on relationships, the lack of social spaces for men, and the importance of creating authentic connections. Finally, she offers advice on balancing the consumption of adult content and building real-life relationships.

Connect with Kristal Desantis: https://www.strong.love/

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