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Spicy Special: Exploring Safety, Sex, and Connection with Aubrey Aust

June 04, 2025 • Pepper Kat • Season 3 • Episode 126

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In this Spicy Special, Aubrey Aust — a researcher, writer, and master's candidate at NYU — shares her insights into how we build safety, trust, and connection in intimate relationships. She explores the role of attachment theory, polyvagal theory, and neuroception in helping us feel truly secure with a partner. Aubrey also unpacks how attachment styles shape intimacy and why men's vulnerabilities around sexuality are often overlooked. Finally, she highlights the importance of care, ethics, and emotional safety in creating deeper, more fulfilling connections.

Learn more about Aubrey at aubreyaust.com

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