Spicy Spectrum
An award-nominated, top 10% globally recognized podcast that dives into male desire, sex, and fantasy through the lived experience of an adult industry professional. I talk about the topics most people are curious about but rarely hear explored this openly: kink, intimacy, pleasure, and what it’s like behind the scenes. Whether you're part of the kink community, a man looking to feel heard, or a woman open to understanding male desire (and your own) in a new light, you’ll find raw truth, depth, and connection here. My guests range from intimacy experts to adult professionals, and together we explore what makes us human and what turns us on.
I’m also the founder of Design Your Dreamgirl™, an award-nominated fantasy fulfillment experience that reimagines personal connection.
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What Desire Really Looks Like: Science, Fantasy, and the Truth
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In this episode of Spicy Spectrum, I explore desire from both a clinical perspective and behind closed doors. In the first segment, I’m joined by Dr. Stephanie Zwonitzer, DNP, CRNP, a specialist in urology and sexual medicine, as she breaks down common myths around libido, arousal, and desire. We talk about why couples experience mismatched desire, how emotional and medical factors impact intimacy, and why communication outside the bedroom matters more than most people realize.
In the second segment, I shift into a solo Pepper’s Perspective episode, Role Play Roulette Playing With Personas. Drawing from my lived experience in the adult industry, I explore how personas and role play become a language for desire when direct communication feels difficult. From fantasy and creativity to boundaries and emotional regulation, I share how desire is often expressed in ways people rarely talk about openly.
Together, these conversations offer a full-spectrum look at desire, blending science, fantasy, and real-world experience.
Learn more about Dr. Zwonitzer at betweenthesheetswithdrz.com
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