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In this Christmas Eve episode of Spicy Spectrum, I explore what happens when life becomes so loud that desire starts to fade into the background. The holidays can amplify overstimulation, loneliness, and emotional burnout, and I share how constant news, social media, and expectations can disconnect us from our bodies, creativity, and libido.

I talk about my own experience transitioning from a high stress career in news production to my work now, and why learning to slow down was essential for reconnecting with myself. When our minds are overloaded, desire does not disappear, but it does get quiet. I explain how giving yourself permission to pause, unplug, and reflect can help bring imagination and intimacy back online.

I am then joined by Russell Van Brocklin, a New York State Senate funded dyslexia researcher, for a deeper conversation about communication and connection. We discuss how overstimulation affects language, not just arousal, and why so many people struggle to express emotional and sexual needs. Russell shares insights into male loneliness, the difficulty men often have naming what they want, and how simplifying communication can create stronger, more honest relationships.

This episode is about learning how to turn the volume down on the world so you can hear yourself again. It is an invitation to approach the holidays with self compassion, curiosity, and honesty, and to remember that desire is not gone, it is waiting for space and language to return.

Learn more about Russell’s work at https://dyslexiaclasses.com/

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