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An award-nominated, top 10% globally recognized podcast that dives into male desire, sex, and fantasy through the lived experience of an adult industry professional. I talk about the topics most people are curious about but rarely hear explored this openly: kink, intimacy, pleasure, and what it’s like behind the scenes. Whether you're part of the kink community, a man looking to feel heard, or a woman open to understanding male desire (and your own) in a new light, you’ll find raw truth, depth, and connection here. My guests range from intimacy experts to adult professionals, and together we explore what makes us human and what turns us on.

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What He's Thinking: The Fantasy He'd Never Admit to His Girlfriend

February 04, 2026 • Pepper Kat • Season 4

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Read the essay in my Substack series, What He’s Thinking:
The Fantasy He’d Never Admit to His Wife

In this episode, I open the door on a truth most people avoid. Why so many men hide their deepest fantasies from their partners, yet feel safer sharing them privately and anonymously elsewhere. What began as a TikTok conversation with a married woman quickly revealed deeper patterns around fear of judgment, emotional risk, and the quiet ways a man’s identity feels threatened when his desires do not align with who he believes he is allowed to be.

Drawing from my experience in the adult industry, I’ve seen how often adult spaces become the only safe outlet for these hidden parts of men’s inner worlds. This episode goes beyond fantasy and into secrecy, emotional safety, and what changes when people finally feel safe enough to be honest.

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